Stuff on approval, going to try to use this as affirmation...

cEven if you demand love from a limited number of people, you cannot usually win the approval of all of them. Some, because of their own limitations, will have little ability to love anyone. Others will disapprove of you for reasons entirely beyond your control. Still others will despise you forever because of some prejudice against you.

Ironically enough, the greater your need for love, the less people will tend to respect and care for you. Even though they like your catering to them, they may despise your neediness and see you as a weak person. Also, by desperately trying to win people’s approval, you may easily annoy them, bore them to distractions, and again be less desirable.

Taken from Chapter 10: Tackling Your Dire Need for Approval A Guide To Rational Living, Albert Ellis & Robert Harper
www.smartrecovery.org/resources/library/Articles_and_Essays/Self-Acceptance/Tackling_Your_Dire_Need_for_Approval.pdf